My clients live full and abundant lives. They have a good career, great friends, an active social life – yet their love life is the one area that does not match the rest. The part that leaves their friends, family and even themselves wondering “why?”. They act as their confident, secure, fun, authentic self in most aspects of life, but with romantic relationships, they struggle to show up in the same way.

They’re also growth-oriented. They read the books, listen to the podcasts, go to therapy, but what I’ve found is that it doesn’t work for them to do this work alone for three reasons:

First, it’s usually the unconscious patterns and blindspots that are causing you to act in ways that aren’t serving you in your love life and attract what you don’t want. I help uncover the blocks getting in your way. Second, in order to create meaningful, long-lasting change, you need to get to the “why”. I have a process to discover why you adopted these coping mechanisms, habits and behaviors, so that you can heal them from the root. 

Lastly, I use science-backed tools to not only transform these habits and inner wounds into a new pattern, but do it in a way where it creates a new default. Because intellectually you can know to stop doing one thing and start doing another, but when the stakes are high and you’re really into them, and you’re activated, you will just default back to your old patterns every time. (Those “Ugh, I did that thing again” moments that we’re all guilty of). It’s stored in our body. So I use somatics to heal those old patterns and install new ones that can better serve you and what you want.

I help my clients uncover whatever is blocking them from finding love or experiencing connection with a partner in a harmonious way, whether it be helping them create a secure attachment style, doing inner child work to heal triggers and activations, uncovering the energy they are broadcasting out into the world (which may be attracting what they don’t want, or repelling what they do), or uncover any other conscious or unconscious patterns or cycles from childhood, past romantic relationships, or otherwise, that are still playing out in the their current romantic connections.

With attachment styles or unconscious patterns, I not only give people tools to be aware of their patterns and how to tackle them real-time, but we uncover what is triggering or activating them into their avoidant or anxious cycles (or pattern), so we can heal it from the root and they get activated less and less frequently, and with less intensity over time.

I then help you gain clarity to navigate dating (or relationships) confidently. You will learn how to choose partners based on criteria that make you compatible for the long-haul, by determining your values, deal-breakers and non-negotiables, versus solely relying on chemistry or attraction.

You’ll get clear on guidelines for dating so you’re able to show up clear-headed, open, and authentic, in order to attract your authentic match. You’ll know when to give partners a second chance and when to cut your losses so you don’t spend time on partners that are clearly showing you they’re not right for you. And you’ll define your wants, needs, and boundaries, so that you can honor yourself and what you want out of your partnership. 

Lastly, you’ll learn tools to best connect and communicate with a partner in a way that it lands and promotes intimacy and connection (versus deteriorates it) so that you can build a solid foundation with your partner where you both feel seen, understood, and supported – and you can thrive and deepen your bond together.

And because how we do one thing is how we do everything, the work we do has a positive ripple effect in your career, friendships, relationship with family, and more.