In all the misunderstandings and miscommunications or conflict, how do they show up?
- Lean in…
- What happened?
- Tell me
- What did I say?
- Let’s try that again
- Let’s talk about that again
- How did it make you feel?
- I’m so sorry, I never want to make you feel that way
- I can totally see how you’d feel that way if you thought that even though it wasn’t my intent or what I meant
- I’m so sorry I made you feel like that…
Or do their reactions sound more like:
- That’s on you…
- Here we go again…
- No YOU did this or said this…
- I didn’t do that…
Do they take accountability, or shift blame and deflect?
When they didn’t respond to a text and you brought it up, what do they say?
If they left you in read but then reach out for something else do they acknowledge it and apologize or do they pretend like it didn’t happen?
They aren’t magically going to care once you are in a relationship with you. They are showing you how they care right now. They are showing you how they show up in all these little moments.
If you want help determining who is a good match for you and who is showing signs of a low emotional intelligence, so you spend more time with high-quality matches, and less time with people who are already showing you they aren’t for you, I can help you.
I will give you all the tools and clarity to know when to give someone a second or third date, for example, and when to cut your losses because they are already showing signs of emotional immaturity or flags.
You deserve the love life you’ve always dreamed of. And you are worthy of finding it now.
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