According to the research of sociologist Caryl Rusbult, relationships that move toward betrayal and the absence of loyalty compare their partner unfavorably to real or imagined alternatives.
It’s the “I can do better” or “Someone else can make me happier” mentality.
It’s building resentments for what’s missing in the partner or the relationship, harping on those and keeping those top of mind.
In contrast, qualities that build commitment in relationships include cherishing what you have, maximizing your partner’s positive qualities, minimizing their negative qualities, and practicing gratitude and appreciation.
If you are growth-oriented and want to learn more about yourself — your conscious and unconscious patterns — and how you can connect and create a relationship with a partner in a more aligned and harmonious way, this is what I help my clients with.
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