I help my clients find love and thrive in relationships.
My clients are intelligent, successful, kind and loving people. They read the books, listen to the podcasts, go to therapy and take care of themselves. They have full and abundant lives, but still haven’t found that one missing piece: a partner to share their incredible life with.
I help them uncover what’s keeping them from attracting and keeping the love they want. Or for some, I help them thrive in their current relationship by helping them connect with their partner in a more harmonious way.
On the Blog
Defensiveness in your relationship: Healthy guilty versus “guiltiness”
In NYC therapist Orna Guralnik’s New York Times’ article “I’m a couples therapist. Something new is happening in relationships,” she introduces the concept of differentiating between guilt and “guiltiness” [...]
Anxious attachment and physical intimacy: “The Second Place Trophy”
One thing that people with an anxious attachment style seek and crave is love, closeness and affection. One of those ways that we love to experience that connection is [...]
What’s your attachment style?
There is a lot of existing information available about attachment styles (e.g., the book Attached), but it's also important to note that they are fluid. For example, you can be [...]
When I came to Victoria for support in my relationship, I was half-in and half-out. I didn’t trust myself or my gauge of what was an appropriate level of conflict in a partnership. I was finding all sorts of opportunities to talk myself out of being with my boyfriend, when in reality I wanted nothing more than to experience more closeness with him in a harmonious and connected relationship.
In working with Victoria, I discovered that my own thoughts were what was creating the majority of my internal conflict in my relationship. She helped me to see that my partner and I indeed love each other very much, but we were failing to acknowledge and register the acts of love we were showing one-another. Victoria supported me to calm myself and my system enough in the moment to be able to learn new ways of communicating with and relating to my partner that created more love, connection, and harmony. I am so grateful for coaching, and I am so grateful for Victoria!!! Her warm, supportive, non-judgmental, and wise approach allowed me to change myself and the trajectory of my relationship. We are happier than ever, and I have never been more excited for the future and what lies ahead!!!
I was not sure what to expect when hiring a dating and relationship coach. What I did know is that I had been through years of counseling and, while helping, nothing ever seemed right. I had my life together, but why was my personal life lacking? I came across Victoria while scrolling through Instagram reels and I was intrigued. We immediately connected from our very first conversation and I knew I was taking the right step. Throughout my coaching she taught me so much about myself and gave me a new outlook on the dating world. The tools that I came away with have made me a very powerful person that is no longer willing to except anything less than the best for me. Victoria has made such a positive impact in my life and given me the confidence that I was lacking to be intentional in my dating life and find a high-quality partner.
After three months of work with Victoria I am truly a different person. I found her randomly on Instagram when I was in a pretty dark place, and felt like I was doomed to be controlled by anxiety. I had allowed it to completely sabotage a relationship and felt like I had no power over my own life. Whereas I only knew how to confront myself with aggression, she taught me how to be compassionate and curious. She believes that attachment styles are fluid, and I am now living proof of that. This has also profoundly changed my relationship with friends, family, and with myself. My work with Victoria was the best investment I ever made.
I worked with Victoria on exploring areas of trust in relationships in and out of the work environment. I love working with her. Given my experiences she really understands what the issues are and is really good at connecting the dots. She has such a great pragmatic approach, and at the same time, always offers a unique perspective that helps move things forward.
Mere minutes after my first session with Victoria, I had already felt transformed. She has helped me tremendously with my confidence, which has had a positive halo on my career and with my other relationships. She has a great talent for pushing you by posing probing and challenging questions, and doing so with so much tact, class, compassion and relatability. She has endless amounts of tools, exercises, research and advice that can help you work through anything.
I constantly replay her sounds bytes in my mind, which help me process a variety of situations. I am so much more clear on what I am looking for in a partner, how to stay true to my values and when might be the right time to reflect or compromise. I highly recommend working with her, no matter what you’re seeking!
After years of just going through the motions with dating, Victoria helped me get crystal clear on my values and what I was looking for in a quality relationship. I learned strategies to identify and overcome my self-imposed barriers and communication techniques to help me find and pursue better matches. My time with Victoria exceeded my expectations, and now I’m actually having fun dating!
As a very practical person and someone who spins around in thoughts all day, Victoria was the perfect coach for me. She knew how to get me out of my thoughts, into my feelings and make decisions on what I truly WANTED to do. I tend to overthink a lot and it makes every single decision seem so much harder. Having Victoria there to show me what my thoughts are, help me come up with conclusions and see myself for who I really am was invaluable. If you deal with imposter syndrome, if you’re always telling yourself “I don’t know” or if you finally need to take that step forward, Victoria is the coach for you. I’m so so glad I was able to have her in my corner during so many tough decisions. She’s an amazing cheerleader and her coaching skills helped me get to the bottom line way faster than I thought possible. Thank you Victoria!!
Having Victoria as a coach has been one of the best decisions I made as I approached a major career and life change. I felt better organized and equipped to accomplish my goals after our sessions. I would highly recommend everyone to have a life coach that can help them align their actions with their life goals.
Victoria is more than an advisor or coach, she empowers you to be your own advisor. Her ability to listen intently and guide you to self discovery through questions enables clearer decision making. Victoria’s attentive listening enables her to reframe conversations and identify roadblocks you didn’t know you had. She then teaches you how to identify your roadblocks and provides tools that are quick and easy to integrate into your life to help you move past challenges and achieve your purpose. I was stuck in bad patterns that Victoria helped me to identify and address that have enabled me to live a more fulfilling life. I am so grateful to her for her patience, listening and passion to help me and others.
Coaching
Dating Program
A 12-week coaching program to uncover what is keeping you from finding love, heal any blocks or patterns that aren’t serving you, and build healthy habits and behaviors for dating so you can attract who and what you want.
Relationship Program
A 12-week coaching program where I support my clients to thrive in their relationships. They work on tools to better connect and communicate with their partner so they can both be seen, heard, understood and supported.